After so all the trouble I've gone through, trying to fix my broken friendship with Ivy, i havnt got any positive response from her at all. All my friends told me to give up. I guess i'll just have to do that. I guess one have to let go of friendships no matter how unwilling, something like romantic relationships between people i suppose. I'm so disappointed. Nevermind, i feel fortunate at the same time as I still have a bunch of reliable friends. I think its not probably not very healthy to be tolerating (very) bad habits from a friend just because i thought that she was a close friend.
I happened to read another friend's blog recently and she commented about the superficiality of our JC days, especially regarding the bitchy politics within my clique of girlfriends. Its more or less true, but i still believe that it doesnt devalue the friendship we had shared. At least, i had good memories of pre-Uni days because of them. Friends are plentiful and mostly transient. Unless an individual is especially close to you, I wouldnt be too worried about the rest. People tend to flock together, mostly out of convenience, and after graduation, it wasnt convenient for them to meet up. It's their choice definitely, but those who made the effort should be considered a worthwhile friend made.
Time and tide wait for no man, and as i grow older, my Msn contact list has lengthened considerably, yet i usually only talk regularly to a select few, probably around 10 of them? I suppose this says alot about relationships in one's lifetime. Touch and Go, like Ezlink. And once in a while the fare goes up. Haha. Anyway, I can imagine that when I'm old and living on the boundary between life and death, i'll be only having my wrinkly, toothless spouse as my remaining lone trusty friend. The toughest part is keeping him as your friend, your lover and your husband. The daily rigours of living together (not including the raising of children)- sorting bills, keeping food on the table, sharing household chores etc. will chip away at the relationship bit by bit while the couple remains unaware and oblivious. By the time the strains show, it's probably too late to salvage the relationship. Instead of lovers, they have became mere partners or associates doing their respective duties to keep the family together.
So back about letting go... You'll need immense courage and strength to give up something which u have so much stakes in and have invested time and effort. I have a couple of friends who find tremendous difficulty doing that. They remain hung up over their girls although its a one-sided affair. The irony is that there wasnt even a relationship in the place. One said that if he gave up on the girl, it meant that he was being a typical fickle guy. The other said that he was so sure that that particular girl was (gasp) "THE ONE" after their date, unfortunately the girl disappeared after that and he was left hanging without any proper closure. So far, I have been extremely exasperated talking to them and it seems that my efforts are futile as they remained unmoved. I can only wish them well.
I simply find the above situations ridiculous, honestly. Who havnt had their hearts broken too? If it doesnt work out, it wont. By waiting for a miracle to happen, wont mean that it would eventually work out the way you wished it would. I'll be the first person to celebrate if a miracle did happen! But after doing a simple mathematical calculation(wriggle my fingers)- id say the chance is ZERO. ZILCH. NIL. Sigh. They are putting themselves through self-mental and emotional torment. Look on the brighter side- It simply means that the (fabled?) "THE ONE" is now 1 step closer to your reach! (Haha, dont you agree?) But I guess this is only my opinion. Nevertheless, I'd only give myself a maximum time period of approximately 1 month to get over a guy who isnt worth my time. Sure, go ahead and tear buckets for the first two weeks. Beyond that, the tears will dry and anger or blaming takes over. After which rationalising happens and I should be more or less capable of facing the world again without being a depressed wreck. My friends and family dont deserve the crap from me. Nobody does, including me.
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